Again, some update for Jeremy into Full Day Program in kiddy !!So far so good , He is adapting well .
Now every morning daddy send him to kiddy and mummy send Baby J to nanny.
But for the first day (Monday) ..
We all ( daddy, mummy and baby J) send lil J to kiddy.
He was so happy and excited !!
I called up the kiddy today and ask about my Boy .
The teacher said : "Your boy ar ...His very Independent lor !! Shouldn't be worry."
Here's are some of the things happened to lil J this few days ...
After get know to the class teacher and his friends,
he started to act his own way .
Teacher said, he like to act like a dinosaur and yell in the class .. O.o ( oh dear)
So teacher have to warn him and explained to him, so far he is listening ..
But somehow i think teacher have to warn for few time !!
He been crying ... yes.. he do cried for this 3 days.
But just a while only after being explained...... example :
He cried when he saw many of his friends go home ,
for those who not in full day !! & why can't he go home ??
He cried when there's changed of teacher ,
Cos full day and half day teacher was different !!
He is quite attached to his class teacher , he feel save with her.
Once there's change of teacher . He feel insecure.
He cried a lil when the teacher scold and warn him when he misbehavior,
I think he get scared !!
He also get angry when have to wait for his turn , very impatient .
Monday,
Was his first day on Full Day program .
As a mum, i thot it could be nice if i fetch him back and
see what teacher wanna to tell me about him.
I m very sure he be very very happy to see mummy .
So i tried my best to leave office sharp and reach him ASAP.
But too bad, it was raining and kinda traffic jam.
So i reach the kiddy about 6:10pm.
I saw Jeremy carried his school bag and waited me inside the kiddy lobby.
But worst, he is the LAST student with the LAST teacher.
I feel badly and sad that moment .
The moment he saw me, he was very happy and want me to carry.
Keep on calling "mummy mummy mummy"
Of cos i carried and give him a big hug.
He must be missing and longing for mummy !!
My tear just flow down the moment we step into the car and leave the kiddy..
I feel really bad and let him be the last person to leave the kiddy ,
Some more is raining and cold. .. and his first day in full day program..
Poor boy ...
ha ... i think i m too emo here......
After this incident , i had arranged my PIL to fetch him from kiddy,
I think is better this way ...
At least they reach and fetch him before 5:30pm
At least he is not the last person to leave !!
I know he loved his kiddy, so far no struggling to wake him up,
drink milk and change, he been very cooperating .
He look forward to go to kiddy in the morning !!
Honestly, i'm glad he is adapting well and he like his kiddy so far ...
Perhaps this is his new phase of life !!
But deep down in me ,
i do feel terrified of all the negative new experiences and
influences he'll face without me.... all for the first time !!
Dealing with many rules ,
friendship, disappointments, loneliness, rejection,
embarrassment, bullying, fighting .... and many more.
Cos i know he is not a very easy boy !!
For me, he is and he like
Tantrums, screaming, shouting and refusing,
stubbornness and disobedience, and then purposely being naughty,
difficult and aggressive just for attention.
Hopefully all this didn't apply so badly during kiddy !!!
Cos his naughtiness sometime can be annoying !!
I guess other than that...
I just have to learn to let go , have a bit of faith ,
Life is full of things to learn and experience even for a lil boy.
Have faith that he can adapt to new situations,
Have faith that he will learn from his mistake,
and that i just have to loosen up a bit ....
I remembered the principle said to me when i had a
conversation with him earlier last week .
" Is not the kids cannot let go the parents, The parents cannot let go the kids"
So true ... that's is what i m into now.
Daddy said to me yesterday ...
Not to worry, Why are you so worry ???
Teacher will handle and guide him the right way !!
Yah ... daddy seem no worry at all ...
I Wander why mummy always have endless of worried ... ??
Now only go kindy wor ... how if go primary, secondary , uni??
Endless ... endless ....
Okey ... i really need to learn to let go ,
to have the wisdom knowing how to let go .
Knowing when to push and when to stand back,
When to hold them back or keep them wrapped up !!
Maybe i shouldn't be so protective or being a pushing mum ...
Accept the negative part when he have to face it himself .
Shouldn't under-estimate him ....
Maybe he is stronger that i think lei ?? hmmmm ... mmm
Mummies out there,
Do u feel and have the same feeling as me ?
13 comments@感覺:
don't be surprise our kids take instruction very well in school while they can be totally different at home..also, peer pressure also influence your boy...
don't worry...things will get better for Jeremy and you!
Don't worry. Kindy is where they first learn to be independent. Don't ever think that he will feel you love him any lesser now because you send him off to kindy. You'll be surprised how well kids can adapt to changes.
We as mothers have this protective instinct inbuilt in us... i guess we will always feel like this even when on our kids wedding day! haha!
" Is not the kids cannot let go the parents, The parents cannot let go the kids"
hmmm.....just like 養兒一百歲，長憂九十九 loh...me too hv to learn to let go...
The principal of my daughter's school says the same thing! It's the parents that cannot let go!
I agree with KK and WS that children behave much better in school, taking instruction from teachers and learning to share. At home, it is different as they want to 'manja' with us! Who else can they 'manja' with if not us?
My daughter now doing well in school, after 1 week... adapt quite well.
if the teachers are good, they will be able to handle him well.
does he roar in class too? :)
Ya learn how to let go and let him be independence. Remind on ourselves that we can't accompany them 4ever. This is just a process. Later you will be enjoyed when he bring back his art work, telling you story of his frens, his teacher & etc.
He seems to be adapting vy well. At this age when he's all ready to learn n socialise, it's def better to attend kindy (one that he loves) than go to nanny's plc.
I can't let go too when Alycia was my first and only child. When #2 and #3 arrived, I just don't have the time not to let go, haha. The more kids you have, the more relaxed you'll get.
dear anngie, yes endless worries as a mom esp when our kids are still young & fragile...but as my kids grew esp when i knew how naughty they are, i worry less & at times hoping others (teacher) to teach them for me instead, haha
hope that'll lessen yr worry as time passes by....
but can definitely feel for u when jeremy was the last to go home... sob sob sob, yeah, shd get the grannies to pick him up, thumbs up :D
hey hey Anggie..
dun worry, I felt the same way when I first send Hong Hong to school, so worry abt this, that and those..
especially he cried everyday refusing to go school, I almost gave up and stop sending him there...
but now, can c he s improving, come back singing, telling me things of his frends in school(though morning still dun wanna wake up and nvr cooperate to change and drink milk)
u should b glad that jeremy s so cooperative..I would say those crying r in the beginning...
we as mum, should listen more to Lam Fong's song "放手",haha..
yeah, better let grandpa fetch him, so that u dun tense up urself everyday, and he dun feel good to b the last as well..u still fetch him from grandpa's house, by giving him a big hug, right???
育儿，不要给自己太大的压力。
（我会说别人，不会说自己，哈哈）
Thanks to all mummies for the sharing .... i m appreciate, seem that i m not alone to face this kind of prob ... :P
Let your child build the relationship with his teacher. Teach him how to appreciate his teacher and friends. That will help tremendously.
A little thank you note, a hug to thank you, a simple drawing dedicated to his teacher. Small little appreciation. It'll do good for both child and the teacher.
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